To hear the unspoken

Reading between the lines is an accepted expression, ie. to understand a sublime and hidden meaning...an unspoken one...To hear the unspoken is the same thing but in a conversation instead of in a written format.

There are certainly more chronically ill people than me who have super-ultrasound hearing, ie. when one clearly hears clearly what others are saying between the lines so to speak or even what they think.

Maybe we are hypersensitive, but we often seem to be right, which is usually revealed in the aftermath when the gossip starts to spread.

I speak from personal experience now, and the whole post is based only on these.

It's often about ignorance, misunderstanding or suspicion. Even if the other person seems empathetic and expresses understanding, you can hear the mistrust as a buzzing noise in the background "But how can you be so positive and happy if you now have such desperate pain? And how can you work full time with your alleged health problems?

There's often a suspicion that the symptoms are exaggerated to arouse pity, or that they are even fabricated. What's not visible doesn't exist.

And another thing...Some people just don't understand what hurdles we have to get over to accomplish what's easy, obvious and natural for healthy folks. I'll take some things from my own everyday life as an example: carry something slightly heavier than a down pillow a longer distance, reach for something on the top shelf, be able to sit on the floor (when exercise for example) and even worse, get up from the floor...it's almost impossible and it hurts like hell....

All the gossip and bullshit also hurts of course, but I decided a long time ago to ignore it instead of wasting energy on it. I need that energy to cope with all the other negative aspects of chronic illness. But I get pissed when I sees or hears that, for example, ME patients are questioned regarding their diagnosis. "must be isolated in a dark and quiet room? Well, that seems a bit exaggerated". (insert rolling eyes)

Ignorance again, when it's so easy to find out the facts before you form an opinion.

So I wish that everyone would just ask about one's chronic condition and how it affects you. Curiosity is a good thing sometimes so don't be afraid to ask, or just google it and read about it before jumping to conclusions.

 

 

But if you don't bother, beware, we can hear the unspoken and what you're thinking....loud and clear....

Have a continued wonderful summer.....

XOXO   🏖