Broken roses
I hate bullying in all forms. Bullies are nothing but cowards who have to push others down to claim themselves and boost their bad self-esteem. Bullying among children is horrible, but adult mobbing is worse in my eyes because adult people should have better sense and understanding, and also be aware of the consequences of their actions more than children are capable of.
Adult mobbing is based more on envy than self-esteem, and has more sophisticated methods like ostracism, gossip and sometimes real set-ups, traps that discredit the victim and creates severe trust issues. You pretend to be this person's best friend while persuading him/her to do something slightly doubtful or construct something disadvantageous from something the person tells you or does that you then can blow out of proportion,
Then you quickly spread it to superiors, friends, family or others who are closely related to the person. One can also make use of the old "make a hen of a feather" tactic, that is to say, enlarge and lie a little bit about something banal, but when you exaggerate it can put the person in a bad position.
It's all about throwing suspicion and discrediting people.
The last version has happen to me on several occasions, but luckily I have much bigger problems to worry about so these sad attempts at dirt throwing is just a waste of time. I'm getting angry and disappointed for a couple of mins, but I don't really let it affect me, not even when it comes to the relationship with the actual bully because I really want him/her to know that it's just a waste of time and effort on his or her part.
I also think it’s extremely cowardly to bully someone who already has enough issues to handle and is already extra vulnerable, like a chronically ill, disabled or functionally challenged person.
Adult mobbing is based more on envy than self-esteem, and has more sophisticated methods like ostracism, gossip and sometimes real set-ups, traps that discredit the victim and creates severe trust issues. You pretend to be this person's best friend while persuading him/her to do something slightly doubtful or construct something disadvantageous from something the person tells you or does that you then can blow out of proportion,
Then you quickly spread it to superiors, friends, family or others who are closely related to the person. One can also make use of the old "make a hen of a feather" tactic, that is to say, enlarge and lie a little bit about something banal, but when you exaggerate it can put the person in a bad position.
It's all about throwing suspicion and discrediting people.
The last version has happen to me on several occasions, but luckily I have much bigger problems to worry about so these sad attempts at dirt throwing is just a waste of time. I'm getting angry and disappointed for a couple of mins, but I don't really let it affect me, not even when it comes to the relationship with the actual bully because I really want him/her to know that it's just a waste of time and effort on his or her part.
I also think it’s extremely cowardly to bully someone who already has enough issues to handle and is already extra vulnerable, like a chronically ill, disabled or functionally challenged person.
Over time, bullying can cause depressions or even worse scenarios. For a sensitive person it's like slow mental torture and it breaks you down bit by bit. I call victims of bullying "broken roses", because it doesn't matter how many torns you have to protect you, in the end the torns are intact but the beautiful flower has lost everything that was holding it up, and all that's left is a wilted rose with a broken stalk....
Well, that's a bit of what I personally think of bullying among adults, and if it wasn't so sad, I'd call it childish, but as adults we should be role models for children instead of really good examples of really bad behaviour....
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